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I am in recovery
Category: Recovery
Tags: Recovery 101

People act like I am schizoaffective on purpose. And stay away from me. It's their loss because there is recovery. True friends have never left my side, only noted my strengths, and gave me room to cope. The mom and sisters in my immediate family could not even think to do that. Their first thought was to place me in a home and keep me out of sight and out of mind. And now we have shallow relationships. But it's their loss. I'm a true survivor. I didn't marry for money, for kids, for any possessions, for drugs. Nothing like that. I'm working on me. And I am a litigation paralegal who knows how to serve an amazing Italian dinner. I'm proud of myself.

Recovery is Possible
Category: Addiction
Tags: Addiction Recovery Substance Abuse

My father passed away 2012 and I wasn't prepared to deal with grief of lossing someone i was so close to and I was caring for. †Instead of expressing and coping with the loss In a constructive or healthy manner I turned to drugs and alcohol. †Within 6 months after the loss I became highly addicted to a few drugs and alcohol. I thought The substances would help me forget about my father, my mental illness, my depression, my loneliness and my life. To be honest I was hoping that I would overdose and pass without any pain. I went to a few rehab treatment centers but I would always relapse within months of leaving because I always went back to hanging out with my ' friends'. I learned all the †tools I needed to deal with my addictions but i couldn't deal with the feelings depression, sadness and loneliness. †During 2014 I finally spoke up and told my immediate family what was happening. †My mom offered me a room in her home and I accepted but that only lasted a few months and I was still using. †I moved out and had a place in rough part of town, that's all I could afford being on disability.†
One night I hosted a gathering for a few people that had drugs to offer and I ended up overdosing. All I remember is waking up in a hospital with breathing tubes and IV inserted into my arms. My mom was there in a chair sobbing with her hands covering her face an Something happened to me when I saw her ... i did not want be the reason my mom died from a broken heart. They say that people sometimes break addictions when they hit rock bottom and that's exactly what happened to me. My mom, sister and brother were all I had left, something inside me gave me the strength to overcome my drug and alcohol addictions, some people say that I experienced a spiritual awaking. †Ever since that day I've been sober, it's been approximinaly 5 years now.†

Medicare For Everyone Tags: Healthcare Recovery Depression Medicine

Our healthcare system is broken when a missed $20 payment causes someone to take their life. These medicines are life saving. And having these medications can sometimes make the difference between life and death. I do not think people realize how important it is to have healthcare but mandatory Medicare for everyone would save so many lives. I pray this happens in my lifetime. #mentalhealth #healthcare #medicareOur healthcare system is broken

Mental Health Awareness Is On The Rise
Category: Community News
Tags: Mental health Talk About it Recovery Therapy Support

Mental health awareness is on the rise and the most recent place is Oregon. Specifically, there is a new law that allows Oregon Students to take mental health days. Mental health days will now be marked as excused absensces. And students will not be penalized. The new law allows for up to five days be used for mental health days.†

This is big news and I hope the rest of the country will also follow suit. After this, I think work should also allow it. There are days when we need to nurture or monitor our mental health. And there are days when we need to make our mental health a priority.†

There has been some backlash to the news in Oregon, thinking kids will take advantage. However, I think those who misusue sick days will misuse mental health days. It will be the same people who call in sick. But this will allow for those who need a few days to recover from some mental health symptoms and go back to school feeling better and more prepared. I think this will also allow for everyone to be more aware, to be nicer to each other, and to just help eliminate bullying.†

Talk About Your Mental Health
Category: Stigma
Tags: Mental health Talk About it Recovery Therapy Support

I love sharing mental health stories with others. It's not always easy and sometimes can be emotional to do so. What happens during an episode is traumatic. However, healing does take place and so does moving on. You have to move on.

People have shared some amazing stories with me. Everyone is affected by mental health and everyone has experienced trauma. We can all relate. What we share here is a beautiful thing and it will help end stigma. We all know or are or have someone in our lives who experiences a mental health disorder. It's just far too common.†

And by sharing experiences together, we raise awareness. Raising awareness is key to ending stigma. I look forward to a day where mental illness will be as easily accepted as diabetes. Sometimes lifestyle changes can help. And sometimes medicine is necessary. You really need to think it over what works best for you. Each person has individual preferences and expectations, etc.†

Let's keep the conversation flowing and help end stigma.

Put Your Best Foot Forward
Category: Recovery
Tags: Mental Health Recovery Treatment

"Putting Your Best Foot Forward"

To do so at a job interview would mean to make a positive first impression.

To do so while dating and beginning a new relationship would mean to tell your new partner about the positive aspects of yourself, while avoiding the things you don't like about yourself.

But to put your best foot forward with mental health is not about making a positive impression to get somewhere.

Instead, it refers to making our mental health a priority in our lives, to see our mental health as a contributing factor to our overall health.

It refers to taking the necessary steps to ensure our mental health remains intact despite daily stress and other factors which may cause us emotional strain.

What steps have you taken to put your best foot forward for your mental health?

A Mother's Concern for Her Son's Mental Health
Category: Parenting
Tags: Depression Anxiety Recovery Support Parenting

Iíve struggled my whole life with some kind of depression and anxiety. Iíve always been able to manage it. Iíve taken medication when it was really out of control, but always seem to come out on top. My 17 year old son has struggled emotionally since he was a small child. Heís so gifted: extremely smart, talented, handsome, and charismatic (when he wants to be 😂). I had him young (19), but made it my mission for him to never feel like that put him at a disadvantage - and dare I say, I think I succeeded on that front. Heís headed to college, talking with coaches about continuing his career in baseball after high school, dating a beautiful girl. From the outside, it all seems pretty perfect.

His father disappeared the first couple years of his life and pops in to celebrate the victories. I married a wonderful man when he was 2 - he took him in as if he was his own and things were good. About 2.5 years ago his biological grandfather in his dads side was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. He was the most consistent connect to his biological father. He showed up to every game and every tournament. He stayed in touch with me almost daily for years when his own son hadnít talked to me in months. They gave him 6 months to live and 6 weeks after the diagnosis, he passed. My son was completely devastated.

Shortly after that, my marriage fell apart. We ended up in a long divorce (not spiteful, just long). He took the news well. My ex-husband and I vowed to be the picture of the perfect divorced family. And so far, so good. I never stopped to think that he might have been concealing his true feelings. That he was putting on a happy face, to save me from anymore heartache.

Add to this a broken wrist in the summer of 2017 that required surgery (and stopped his season) and a second broken wrist in the summer of 2018 that ended his season early, an extremely demanding high school schedule with 4 AP classes, and a broken heart over his first love....

He was a disaster. Fits of rage, all directed at me. Violent rage that started over the stupidest things like not being able to find a shirt he wanted to wear or dinner not interesting him. We couldnít even talk anymore. He was hurtful and disrespectful and honestly scared me on multiple occasions. I knew it wasnít him. His eyes were lifeless. It was like he checked out, and this other horrible person took over. Heíd always had issues dealing with emotions, but it seemed like it was escalating daily. He asked for help and I found a counselor that he really liked and could start working with him quickly. She wasnít able to write him prescriptions, but wanted to see if we could work things out without medication. About halfway through I felt like we needed to explore medication - finding a doctor that specialized in adolescents was a nightmare. Getting an appointment within a reasonable time frame was a nightmare also. My son was in crisis and I didnít even know how bad it was.

On 1.10.19, he called me on my way to work. He had refused to leave his room for the sixth time in ten days. He was sobbing. He told me he didnít want to feel this way anymore. That he thought he might be better off dead. That he had spent the night cutting his thighs, and that it wasnít the first time heíd had those thoughts or done those things. That he just wanted to feel normal again and he knew he could, but he couldnít even bring himself to get out of bed.

I left work. I took him to childrenís hospital and within hours he was in a facility for adolescents. He needed medical treatment. He needed counseling, yes. But he was diagnosed with major depressive disorder and panic disorder caused by anxiety. He needed medication. He needed an intervention. And the lengths I had to go to for someone to take him seriously still astounds me.

Thereís so much pressure on us as parents to raise the perfect child. Thereís so much pressure on them as young adults to get perfect grades, and go to a big school. Thereís so much pressure on teenage boys to become men so fast. Donít cry and be strong. Donít show weakness or emotion. Itís not cool to hug your mom, and donít you dare ask for a kiss. With all of those AP classes, he was averaging 3-4 hours per night of homework and still only getting Cís. Eventually he quit doing the work. I think that when he realized the hole that he had dug himself, he spiraled downhill quickly. The first thing I did was change his schedule. I took him out of those AP classes and put him into a suitable replacement. I stopped caring so much about making him the perfect child and started focusing on making our relationship strong. I started working on opening the lines of communication - even on things I donít want to hear 😂 I started prioritizing my day differently - carving out alone time for him and I - because even though he acts tough, I realized some of it may have been a really painful way of getting my attention. We try to deal with emotions head on - cry it out, run it out, laugh it out. We try not to bite our toungues if what we have to say is constructive. And we hug - a few times a day sometimes. We say I love you. And sometimes he even sneaks me in a kiss goodnight ❤️

Itís not perfect. Iím not perfect. Heís not perfect. I still struggle. We still have a bad day on occasion. But we know how to recover. We know to address it. I still bite my tounge at times and really dissect my words. I know he is living with a disease at a level that is greater than anything I have experienced and my words, all of the words I speak to him, carry a greater weight than anyone else in his life.

I guess I just wanted to share this somewhere. Maybe it will help someone that is struggling. Itís not something I talk about often with just anyone. But itís changed me in ways I could never imagine.

From an Anonymous Concerned Mother Who Wants To Help Others

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